Written as part of the #DailyWriting Challenge #peace
I was going to write a post about how I’m not looking for peace yet. A kind of ‘I’ll sleep when I’m dead’ vibe. I started with the idea that peace was closure but then I thought about all the ways I experience peace in my life now and how it’s not really a case of closure but more an opening. An opportunity for new thinking and new beings.
When I’m at school, peace hits me at the end of the day or when I walk into my empty classroom during the holiday periods. I feel at peace when all the hustle and bustle of busyness and ‘doing’ subsides. When there aren’t 101 things rushing through my mind and calling for attention. Or there aren’t 30 little people each reaching out for their own little piece of feedback.
Peace comes when life is quiet and still. When the noise subsides and there is time and space to think and to reflect – on the things that have happened and things that can happen still. It’s a sort of suspension in the moment, in the very essence of the present.
Peace comes through the act of understanding. Sometimes it comes easy and at others it is a challenge, but in seeking to understand we are beginning the process of ‘putting things to bed’ and of ‘letting things be’.
I wrote a little while ago about love and how, in learning about the extension of ‘unconditional love’ towards adults, this transformed how I saw others. This new vantage point, new understanding of human development, brought with it great empathy. Not necessarily ‘agreement’ but empathy and understanding of others.
I seek to understand and I appreciate when others or situations are different to my preference; when my inner congruence is knocked by the world around me.
This does not mean that I agree for agreeing sake, or that I shy away from debate or speaking my mind. It is possible to empathise and to appreciate another point of view without deviating from your own.
However, it is much easier to stick with your own thoughts – or to feel ‘at peace’ with them – when they have been developed robustly through an open dialogue or critique … whether that be with yourself or with others. Also, I think, it is in fact much easier to change them as well because – in the process of dialogue and critique – you have detached yourself and others from the thoughts, and they become much less an extension of ourself and therefore they are more open to being expanded or, in some cases, closed down. We are much more willing to be wrong when we can see why that it is and when it is not really ‘ourself’ who is wrong but the thought itself.
So, rather than peace being a form of ‘closure’, it is a sense of understanding. It is a process in which we can accept ourselves and others, but it also offers the opportunity for new ways of thinking and of being in the world.
When we are not at peace that is perhaps when we need to seek ways in which to learn and understand the most. Instead of fighting that which we are not at peace with, we need to listen to it and sit with it for a while.
Perhaps our peace is limited only by how much we are willing to learn?
Peace out ✌️ x